Sometimes I am embarrassed about my major.
I remember my sister saying that she didn't major in Elementary ED because she didn't want to have to tell people. At the time I thought she was ridiculous. Do what you want to do, don't let other people stop you.
But now I understand.
Earlier today I was with some fellow college students and the topic of majors came up. We went around the table stating our status stati?: Bio Chem, Nursing, Civil Engineering.... Family Sciences.
I felt ashamed. I felt like these people were learning amazing life-altering things, they were totally pushing themselves and getting the absolute most out of their education. They were going to go on to change the world, and I would sit back and bake pies.
I must admit that I often get a little defensive when stating my major. It's like, if I make a joke about it first then they have no ammunition, nothing to come at me with. When someone jabs at the School of Family Life, I laugh it off like it's no big deal.
But it actually really hurts.
I hate feeling like my major is 1950's housewife joke. I hate feeling like I'm wasting my time and my parent's money. I actually had a friend ask me once why I was studying something that I could learn from being a mom?
That question caught me off guard. Did they really think I would learn all of this through experience? Piaget and stonewalling and the stages of development? I mean, I guess I would get a sense for it after a few years of parenting/marriage, but wouldn't it be better to have the information before I start raising kids? Before I find myself in the midst of a divorce? Is it really a bad thing that I am doing all I can to have the best family I know how?
As a person I have a really hard time opening up to people. I don't share my feelings easily and it can be hard for me to connect with others. I have always been so afraid of how this will affect my future family. I want so badly to have an open home where my kids and their friends feel comfortable, but I have been so worried for so long that I just won't know how to pull it off.
So when I heard about a Family Studies major, I was so happy. It was an answer to my prayers. I realized that I could actually study the family and learn theories and methods to being successful. I realize that parenthood/marriage is not something you learn from a pamphlet, but I have spent three years building a "tool box" of methods to use in different situations.
And being a mother isn't the only thing I would like to do with my education. I am interested in going on to study Marriage and Family therapy. I would love to be a behavioral aid, working with kids with autism. I would like to work for Family and Child Services. I want to help strengthen families, because families are the center of every community, they are essential to God's plan for the eternal destiny of His children.
Sure, it's impressive that you are learning crazy math equations and how to sew a body back together. But I am learning equations for the human mind and how to heal people, from broken hearts to broken souls.
I know that my work is important, and I am done being ashamed of my major.